DECONSTRUCT - THE MYTH OF SEX THROUGH EDUCATION

This is an afterthought conversation with a friend... 

Very often we do not know and are not aware whether it’s factual or fictional, fantasy or reality but the naked truth is that while speaking or hearing, seeing or writing we come across words associated with s^x such as desire (libido), and arousal that makes us known as sensual relational existential beings. We, humans, are inherently sexual beings. It is natural, and one of the basic needs (I would add) which is very normal and ordinary to have the mood “turn on” and be and live (entwined, energized, entangled, entertained, and educated ) our sexuality. It is very necessary to have sexual confidence (being comfortable and being communicable) and consent (affirmation, attraction, and affection). The body accepts pleasurable (curiosity, discovery, intimacy) gestures (soft - kiss, embrace, hug, touch, cuddle and/or hard-) that is highly relative (orgasms and orgies) leads to expressions (satisfaction, glorification, and liberation) in a very subjective (passionate pain) way. But I don’t understand why we call it and say: it’s taboo, it’s sacred, it’s bad and I don’t know why we unnecessarily create (make a trap) a belief (religious, spiritual, political, cultural, emotional) of a social construct (right/wrong, good/bad, do’s/don't). Of course, we need to take the necessary precautions, and preventions in the act of foreplay, or orgasms with (bi-, or pan-) or without a partner (things) to avoid the damage (emotional, psychological, physical, social, cultural, financial) and risks (diseases) to oneself and the other. Are we able to challenge and deconstruct the myths of sex with an open mind (conscience and consciousness) and the right resources (channelize)? Therefore, grow to live and be sex educated.

 

 

WORLD CONSECRATED DAY

In 1997, Pope John Paul II called for consecrated life to be promoted throughout the universal Church. The World Day for Consecrated Life is to be celebrated on 2nd February, the feast which commemorates the presentation which Mary and Joseph made of Jesus in the temple "to present him to the Lord" (Lk 2:22).

In the words of Pope Francis (2022): “The missionary dream of reaching out to all is the project of love”.

The joy of WE - No one, no one, should be excluded or feel excluded from this journey; no one, no one, should think it doesn't concern me

Participation - I recognize myself as part of a shared project strong in the conviction that we can only receive and give Good

Responsibility - we cannot but be among others and with others (https://www.vaticannews.va)

While all the baptized are called to share a common relationship with God: to be “religious” (RFC).

The trust that this World Day of prayer and reflection will help the particular Churches to treasure evermore the gift of consecrated life and to be measured by its message, to find the proper and fruitful balance between action and contemplation, between prayer and charity, and between commitment in the present time and eschatological hope (https://www.vatican.va)

This Feast is also known as Candlemas Day; the day on which candles are blessed symbolizing Christ who is the light of the world. So too, those in consecrated life are called to reflect the light of Jesus Christ to all peoples (USCCB).

Walking Away, Letting Go…

 I don’t know why I love her

She stole my heart & my soul

Her beauty and simplicity, her smile and looks

She looks so beautiful that it hurts everyday

And I don’t know why she is the only one that makes me feel so

Yellow is her color

And now I am on the spur of singing buffalo…. “Buffalo Soldier”

On this winter night, I want to feel all the wit and might

I never ever thought I’ll cry for someone

But for her, I literally shed my tear

I even begin to drink which I never did before

I even proposed to her and never ever received an answer yet

I feel rejected, I feel broken, and I feel hopeless

Every night I dream and think of her

And I wonder why She has not yet given me an answer

 

There was a time we were so close

That in every picture we could pose

But in time we got distant

2022 has given me hopes

Because after a long time she spoke

And now I am even more confused

And even more complicated

That I don’t know what it is and will it go on

Maybe it’s my mistake to start it all

 

For me, it was never about the body

But her personality, character, and the way she is

Every time I listen to her song (100 Words)

I kept getting closer to her

What’s my fault that I fell for her?

I got to know only one thing that love is gone

Why is love so complicated?

That I can’t feel, I can’t see, I can’t understand, I can’t have it

Is there something wrong with me or with my thoughts….. I do not know

Wish there was more to have like whisky and rum, family and friends, music.

This is only an expression of my friend's heart, mind, and soul and his feelings for the one he...

Cheers...

 

I don’t know why

But I like her hie and bys

I began to like her even more

When I came to know the date she was born

I didn’t know from the time came into this world

Until her last birthday 2020 which was a midnite fun

Her daily routine

Is like a theatre screen

Rising at 6 ish

Which she never wishes

Taking bath n eating breakfast

Running for the Bus

As the time is ticking hush-hush

For work which is all buzz

Morning time during the flush

Clicking a selfie blush

Her afternoons are busy

With texting chatting lunching

Then feeling lazy and sleepy

Walking every step 3 floors up

To resume her work of backup

In the evening when back she messages what sup

As she freshen ups

 

Her eyes are what captures

Every move drape like no other could

Her smile makes her face glitter

N every step she takes with gitter

Every time she shakes her legs while sitting

Which means that she is only thinking

She love Sundays

First time I seen her was in the Village Street

Felt like running my hands through her hair n kiss her cheek

But I could not dare to that

Because it was just not the day

Gazing through the night sky

Contrasting every colour of the dark light

Lost in thoughts of the mind

Decisions of life become rough and tight

 

She has come to a junction in life

Where she knows she has to strive

With family and friends known

Stressful and painful ways unknown

Yet she fathoms to walk the path

No matter what the warth

For she knows someone will be the warmth

Maybe that’s all she is got

She was trying to be good

But did not understand why or how

That would not put her to bed

And her eyes would be all teary and red

There was to dread

Because all she had to do was shred

She still could not find the reason why

Until she got a tight slap

 

Oh, that Saturday morning sunshine

With music and clear blue skylines

The roads on either side with green climbs

In the car was a delightful time

A onetime, totally sublime

Wanted the time to freeze

And experience the cool breeze

It’s like one dares to dream

But thoughts only allow to trim

We are at the beach

Sharing with each other what life teach

The horizon telling us a good tale

In history, no one to blame

Let life be an eternal flame

One should always have an aim

To one day be a fame

As we are walking the hot wind blows

Reminding us of the sunset as we are ready to go

My knees are knocking with a knock that brings a smile

As I carry her on my back for a photograph time

Assuring her that I’ll walk with for a mile

For I am only there a while

I know that it’s temporary

But it’s good to be friendly

Evening came and we made love madly

It was simply human but truly divine

Wish she could stay to dine

But she had to go back in time

All I can say that she will always be mine

It kind of funny the way I rhyme

Ever since as a child

I knew how to be wild

My sincere heart and thought was her to bind

Everything in body, soul, and mind 

 

One may think of life as rosy, or cherry

But I think that life is all about merry and not marry

But I know that you have dreams

I wish and pray that one day the Supreme

Will grant your desires

And bless you, with all that you admire

You will have better and nicer days

When you tell stories to your little girl baby

Of moments that you have captured

And memories well raptured

As the pack of cards lay

The ace of spades stays

One day will find you in the middle of the bay

Maybe it will be the month of May

You will say

Hey

Do you remember me?

It will be beyond expectation

That once I was your fascination

Or wait actually never an imagination

That time your girl will run up to saying

Mommy, Mummy

And I will be left with nothing but

Smiles and Smiles and Smiles

As the little girl smiles at me

And turns to you asking you WHO

And I disappear like I was never there too

Let there be no more hurts

Let there be no more burns

Yes we can learn to smile 

maybe time will bring moments of grey and gay

She seemed to be smiling and he wondered why

She looked at her wristwatch and say’s

…Oh My God…OMG

 

From RD to CD

One month of knowing you from your Birthday

I think you are a gift and a blessing to everyone

Stay blest, Stay Safe

You will always be my darling, the caring one

I pray and bless your future and near dear ones

No Coffin to Lay His Body

Br Michael Condillac sdb was 78 years old when he passed away on Sunday, 15^th April 2020 at Karuna Hospital. The day he was called to eternal life was on the day of Resurrection. We no coffin to lay him but wrapped him white cloth, which reminds us all of our Christian vocations which we make in our baptismal vow to be a total offering to God, our Creator to whom everything belongs.

Article 45 of the Salesian Constitution shows the place of the Salesian Brother in the community which is an integral part and not an add-on or subordinate vocation.  As an ordinary lay religious Salesian brother, he would live his life with simplicity and serenity. I can vouch for his simplicity because his poverty was seen in his way of dressing and living the day as a simple down-to-earth man. The same can be said about his serenity because most of the time he spends was in the chapel praying the rosary or sitting in silence having a conversation with the Lord. Well, at the table for breakfast he preferred the sunny side up and for lunch a bombil fry with dal, for evening tea the mother Teresa biscuits and dinner an apple with soup.

Apart from praying he also loved talking to the children getting to know their history and talking to the superior and the management as to how to help them with particular or special interests. He liked to see the children playing and studying, dancing and singing and would suggest ways and means to the brothers as to how to animate the children.

There are so many aspects to Br Michael’s life and many ways that he touched our lives. I will always remember him as “Paa”- lovingly known as the grandfather (Azoba - Marathi).

Prayerful – I have seen Salesians being good at many gifts and talents – player, runner, drummer, strummer, footballer, but Br Michael was best seen and was a Prayer. He was most of the time in the chapel praying apart from the community prayers.

Asceticism was one of the hallmarks he lived with. Like Don Bosco, to give of ourselves tirelessly for the young. This was also seen in his respect for the superiors and the authority. Living his vow of obedience to the core.

Accompanying the young – As an educator after Don Bosco and an evangelizer after the example of Jesus Christ himself, he would seek every opportunity to guide and empower the young. Firstly, by listening to them and secondly by accompanying them.

LIVING LIFE TODAY 2020

Its been a while since |I have posted anything but here is something to reflect and revision and relive

Part 1

I will rise, I will fall

But every time it happens

I will move ahead of them all

People who stood by you

Walk away without any clue

Life is just tik-tok

Wish this time was never on the clock

Life is all about

What you want to make of it

Be it work of art or havoc in the heart

Though stout and brave

Funeral marches to the grave

Ignoring all blessings

Racing through sad things

Staying inside only brings

Memories that we had n shared n cared

Some which gave us a swing

While others only a sting

Some made us give ping

N others giving fling

Now its summer singing

Days of remembering spring

Where we could mingle

But now distancing n being single

Part 2

But its true

These days are of crewfew

With people who need glue

If not their fate to meet only the sue

This pandemic flu

Has left us with no clue

This has given us no revenue

But has taken care of Nature Avenue

It’s a reminder to us of nature’s value

So let human learn to withdrew

From this beautiful yet killing review

Not to get into another rendezvous breakthrough

It’s time that we settle all our overdues

And wish the coronavirus adieu

Part 3

As humans let live our lives of virtue

And take every step to renew

What we have done cannot be undo

So let’s give life another chance by not redoing

But get up n start living

So stop trying, stop crying, stop giving up

But start living by changing, by being, by living

After all, tat is wat makes you go,

Bring it wherever you go,

Not everyone is going to love you

So dnt resist or hesitate or fear

Live with a vision which is clear

Be it for yourself or for others

Let it be always to strive to care,

Part 4

For all my life may be

As the world surrounds me

And one chance is all we get

Is a life filled with or with no regrets

One of the truth about all of our lives

In the end we just want to survive

Locked in our homes, some inside while others out

Some are five, while others twenty-five

Some sixty-five, while others seventy-five

We all have only one drive

The strength to fight

for our rights

waiting for the Brightside

for the humans to thrive

this six months hive

to just stay alive 

Part 5

How do you interpret today’s situation

people have to forget vacation

there is no time for discrimination

we are kept away from temptation

children with no education

students with no graduation

this virus has filled us with mutation

wat if we are like this in continuation

when life will be only frustration

how can we live in consideration

this will be our question

in every fraction and friction

let living life to the fullest be our only caption

 Romero D'Souza

DIACONATE ORDINATION

His Excellency Archbishop Pierbattista Pizzaballa was the one to ordain 17 of us (13 Salesians & 4 Missionaries of Africa) as deacons. It is truly a blessing for us the Holy Eucharist for the Diaconal Ordination took place at Gethasamane, Jerusalem in the Church of All Nations on the 11^th June 2017, Tuesday morning 10. 00 am.

We place on record all the Superiors & communities of the Salesians of Don Bosco & the Missionaries of Africa for accepting us and giving us this grace to be ordained. Thanks to all our formators from the time we entered the congregation received our first profession till our perpetual profession and in a special way to the formators, confessors & spiritual directors here in Israel for their guidance and support spiritually as well as the formation in the community.  Also to Studium Theologicum Salesianum (STS), all priests, religious and lay teachers and professors who have contributed toward our study and intellectual formation. We also remember our parents, relatives, family and friends for their love, for their support and their encouragement & blessings. 

Our special thanks to our Choir, the Fillipino community of Good Shepherd, for their melodious singing. For your commitment, spirit of sacrifice, devotion, but above all their love for us brothers. Everyone who is present with us has played an important role in our journey toward this stage in our formation. You have been a source of strength to us through your prayer, sacrifice, and support (both spiritual and material). We pray that the Lord continue to bless all of you. Our encounters and experiences with you are the gifts from which we learn and grow in our lives. May our friendship be strengthened by the supernatural bond of grace.

Pray for us & Bless us

As we do the same to you all

God Bless You